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Is Scarificing Your Happiness In A Relationship Worth It?
lorna darden, Avon Sales Representative
Being in a relationship is not a piece of cake. Investing your time, heart and soul is a special thing to give another person. When you first get together it is the best feeling in the world. You think that you could never love anyone else. Enjoying each other's company, not wanting to be without each other for one minute, getting treated like you're the only one in the world that is needed in their life and the sex is phenomenal!
Years go by and it's still good. You have kids and the relationship changes, not in a bad way, but the time between you two becomes shorter. You begin to mature a little more and realize that it's not just the two of you, you're not just a couple anymore - you are now a family.
Raising kids is not all it is cracked up to be, but you handle it after all you have no other choice. Things between you two are off balance, you have to find the time for intimacy. The sex drive is on the low and so is your energy. Finally there's compromise, you discover opportunities to get that spark back that you once had. Life is great! Everything is as it should be in a family and then something goes wrong.
All of a sudden you argue over minor things and that spark is not even a spark anymore. You have sex whenever, you don't really care, but you still love each other.
What changes a relationship? Is it time or is it the individual involved in it? Love is suppose to last forever, but in reality that is not the case in certain situations. How do you hold on to love when your partner makes it so difficult?
You give your all and expect the same in return. Jealousy, infidelity and deceit are the three enemies of commitment. You dedicate yourself to what was built years earlier between you two, not because of just the love that is still present, but also the fact that you have to think about the children.
When you are not happy in a relationship is it worth sacrificing your happiness so that both parents are raising the children together? To me it's not. You see, if you are not happy, how can you make somebody else happy? When you are happy you share your love openly, you love yourself, and you have peace of mind and appreciate what life has to offer. You finally see that you deserve the best and respect the fact that by no means should you ever have to suffer to be with another.
You have kids together, you still live with each other, but there's one problem. You just can't seem to agree on certain things anymore, the arguments become more frequent and things become so complicated that sleeping in separate rooms seems to be the temporary fix. Tension in the air and around the kids affects everything about a loving home. Whatever problems you are going through, there is always a solution. You have to decide what's right for you and try to avoid any conflicts. A relationship can destroy your self being, mental stability and health.
A commitment that is shared between two people is a bond like no other. There are two of you, but you eventually become as one. Love is a difficult emotion because you love that person for who they are - the mistakes, heartaches, laughter and etc. If you are miserable try resolving the situation. Do what is necessary to make your heart and soul happy, no one deserves to be mistreated, neglected, abused, cheated on and betrayed. Love weakens when there's no hope and faith.
Negative attitude will get you negative results, avoiding what's happening is not going to get rid of the problem. I know it sucks, but that's life. You have to live, but you don't have to live with it.
They always say to love is to be loved; I truly believe that if you care for yourself first you really don't need that emotion from the opposite sex. Remember love is earned pure and true, loving each other means respecting the bond, time, trustworthiness and dedication which builds relationships.
lorna darden I love writing it gives me joy to share important information to others. Health and Poetry are my main subjects to write about. I believe with great health comes a clearer mind and long life.