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Marriage 101: Fun through Spontaneity

Jennifer Hallmark,


I
am stumped! The question was put to me, “Can you put more humor in some of your articles?” You would think after 27 years of marriage, there would be humorous event after humorous encounter and there is. The only problem is that a lot of the things that my husband and I have laughed together about would probably only be funny to us...


Much of the laughter has come from knowing each other deeply, all those little quirks and fears and triumphs that come from knowing someone intimately in this venue of marriage.

One moment of laughter that came to mind was the time we went to Busch Gardens, an amusement park/zoo in Florida with our children and the high school marching band during
It had been ten years since he had ridden any roller coaster, however, and the difference between being thirty five years old and forty five is massive.
a time of competition. There was a small roller coaster, one that adults could ride but obviously put together with younger children in mind. My husband had always ridden the biggest, meanest coasters as a youth and you couldn’t go fast enough or high enough for him.

It had been ten years since he had ridden any roller coaster, however, and the difference between being thirty five years old and forty five is massive. I purposely chose the inner seat as we rode side by side, knowing the added intensity caused by riding in the outer seat. We rounded each corner and he hollered and swore, feeling like the car was going to tip over, he told me later and I laughed until I was hurting. He leaped out of the car when it stopped and told me never to let him get on another ride as long as he lived.

Why? All he could think of was how people have been hurt on rides with faulty construction and materials. The real truth is the fact that as we grow older, many times our life experiences make us more fearful as we have more knowledge.

What does all this have to do with marriage and this
I’m not sure how to explain it but as we explore and just enjoy each other’s company apart from the work at home and child rearing, I feel peace.
article? We had a fun time through spontaneity. It was mainly on my part, for I really hate roller coasters but on the spur of the moment stepped past fear into fun. Earlier in my marriage I probably let many fun times slip by and now I’ve decided to no longer let this happen.

The last few years have been the best in our marriage as we have loosened up from the tasks and pressures of life to have some fun. We have traveled more and watched TV less. Saving money by taking day trips has enabled us to take many small trips during the year to parks, local attractions, craft fairs and a variety of different restaurants. I have eaten sushi, checked out local art, explored gardens and a nearby state park full of wild deer and turkeys. One of my favorite times has been just taking long drives in every direction to see what treasures there are that we have missed living very busy lives.

We occasionally go alone but enjoy going with another couple to share the experience. These fun, barely planned trips always bring pleasant surprises and I hope to enjoy many more this coming summer.

The funny things about these trips and all the spontaneous

fun we have is the way we have drawn closer as a couple. I’m not sure how to explain it but as we explore and just enjoy each other’s company apart from the work at home and child rearing, I feel peace. These times where we focus on our relationship has positive results. Back to our trip to Busch gardens, it began raining at one point and we ran through the rain together to find our group and stopped to enjoy one of the dinner shows on the way…a beautiful, unexpected ending to a wonderful trip…simply Marriage: 101…



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Joyce, 2009-05-02 09:12:10
-- I loved the article. It would definitely be an adventure going places with you and Danny. Keep up the great writing.



Nehar, 2009-05-01 17:48:09
-- It is hard to imagine Danny in such a situation!! It is wonderful that you are finding things out about each other you may have missed through doing spontaneous things together! You and Danny have such a youthful marriage, almost as if you were still dating only having the great gift of an intimate relationship with each other only a marriage can bring. I hope to be able to capture that when the time comes for me.



Patti, 2009-05-01 13:54:07
comment-- really enjoyed this....we forget to enjoy each other during the so busy times in our life.. So nice that you remind us that life won't always be this busy....



  






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